Author: Luis Velasquez

Phase Two: Finding Myself so I Could Find Her

Phase Two: Finding Myself so I Could Find Her

Posted by | Apr 6, 2015 | | 0 |

"It's not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are." —Roy E. Disney As important as it is to find the right people in our lives, we don’t always find them the first time around. Back when I was still married to my first wife—my “practice marriage”—we were in a bad place. We’d been happy before, back when things were awesome and nothing could come between us, but that had changed. There were a lot of things we didn’t see eye-to-eye on, and we’d struggled along on our own for a long time before we decided...

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30-Day Challenge: Living Without Limits

30-Day Challenge: Living Without Limits

Posted by | Mar 23, 2015 | | 1 |

Everyday, we have the opportunity to challenge ourselves and test our limits. The problem is that we get comfortable. We forget that time is limited and we may not always have endless tomorrows to postpone to. Some of us are lucky enough to get a wake-up call; something that challenges us to really think about how we spend our time and the limits we impose on ourselves. For me, it was being diagnosed with the tumor I refer to as 'my precious,' and which has served as a daily reminder of my mortality. Now I seek out challenges and...

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Of Cues and Rewards: Changing Bad Habits

Of Cues and Rewards: Changing Bad Habits

Posted by | Mar 9, 2015 | | 0 |

"You cannot change your future, but you can change your habits. And surely your habits will change your future." —Dr. Abdul Halam They say it takes 21 days to create a habit. Or is that how long it takes to break one? I’m not really sure, and there seems to be some contention about the time frame anyway. I’ve succeeded in changing one particular habit of mine—or creating one, depending on how you look at it. It has to do with eating, as so many of our bad habits do. I’ve grown accustomed to “passing by” the pastry section every...

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Shut Up and Listen: Having the Courage to Ask

Shut Up and Listen: Having the Courage to Ask

Posted by | Feb 23, 2015 | | 1 |

Sometimes the best thing you can do is shut up and listen. I learned the truth of that statement not long ago after asking my wife what I could do to be a better partner. I got the idea to ask my wife this question from what I heard about a seminar given by Marshall Goldsmith, a well-known executive/leadership coach. A friend of mine who attended the seminar explained an exercise in which Goldsmith asked the audience to raise their hands if they had a cell phone. Most people raised their hands, of course, and then Goldsmith asked them...

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Tumors Suck: An Experience of Change

Tumors Suck: An Experience of Change

Posted by | Feb 9, 2015 | , | 0 |

If there is one thing I hate most in this world, it’s tumors. Not just brain tumors, although I have a personal dislike for them since I have one, but tumors of any kind. They’re ugly, and alien, and they’re terrifying. Coping with the diagnosis of a tumor is emotionally draining and incredibly scary, and I wouldn’t wish the experience on anyone. Unfortunately, my wishes don’t seem to count for much, because a good friend of mine just recently told me that he was diagnosed with a tumor. It’s not a brain tumor, but a tumor nonetheless. When he told...

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